…Autumn is a fine time for long talks in the evening,
And having your friends and music handy.
No use mourning about the summer’s leaving
‘Cause every season has her home and family…
Casse Culver, “Good Old Dora”, 1976
Grief energizes this season. It’s time to let go of regrets, and stuff that simply clogs our closets (and our colon). Take inspiration from the colors all around us and breathe in some crisp, clean autumn air as the wind blows though tree tops bringing us all of their immune-boosting pheromones.
We’ve had another mind-boggling week as 2020 does her level best to wake us up to gifts we have taken for granted far too long. In addition to the national events, everyone has had grief-inducing personal issues. In my case, this season leapt into being as I lost a good friend from my high school days. I hugged my dog, Lulu*, for a 40-minute drive to the vet while she coped with the pain and anxiety of having a mouth full of quills. The day before our water pump in back of the house sprung a leak, letting us know – it’s time to close up camp and leave Torsey Pond until next spring. What events have triggered grief, gratitude, and inspiration for you as this season commences.
Tears cleanse our eyes and our spirits. Queue up a sad movie, or find your favorite tear-inducing passages in a beloved book. Look at photos of loved ones who have moved on. Have a good cry. Tears heal us.
Gratitude is a habit we build through practice. When we take a few minutes each day to count our blessings, no matter how small, we literally change our blood chemistry – starting with our neurotransmitters. Gratitude doesn’t cleanse the way tears do. It is no substitute for feeling the passing of life and opportunities. Instead gratitude builds a path through grief. The more we exercise it, the easier we find the journey.
Celebrate Autumn Equinox, with a cup of ginger-mint tea, a hot bowl of chili, your favorite sad movie. Spend time with friends and music. Celebrate the season’s passing and keep the Gratitude path well-travelled. Bumpy weather ahead.
*Lulu is fine now thanks to the good people at the Animal Emergency Clinic of Mid-Maine.